Maybe this will help, but somehow I doubt it.
You know that part in West Side Story where the Jets sing Officer Krupke, and the characters who are “trying to help”, just keep popping Riff upside the head with their theories of what’s wrong with him?
That’s white fangirls vs. Uhura in a nutshell.
"The trouble is she’s pushy. *whack!* The trouble’s she’s not Scott’s. *pop!* The trouble’s she’s a girlfriend. *bop!* The trouble is she’s Spock’s. *whack!* The trouble is triumvirate.*wham!* The trouble is she not! *boff!*"
^^^ black fangirls
Remember how that song ended??
"Gee, Officer Krupke, KRUP YOU!”